Communicating About Money

We all attach emotions to money. Emotions such as freedom, trust, self-esteem, guilt, indifference, envy, security, comfort, power, and control.

When dealing with money, we bring patterns, beliefs, and attitudes that were present and observed from our families.

I do, you do, we all connect strong emotions to money when communicating about money.

We all attach emotions to money.  Emotions such as freedom, trust, self-esteem, guilt, indifference, envy, security, comfort, power, and control

When dealing with money, we bring patterns, beliefs, and attitudes that were present and observed from our families.  I know I did.

Author Judith Viorst suggests that becoming responsible and adept at managing our money represents a true passage into adulthood.  And this would include communicating effectively with significant others about money.  Addressing questions openly and calmly can help keep emotions in check. 

Additionally, try separately writing down the answers to the following questions.  Once completed, schedule a time to meet and discuss.  This could be a very effective way to begin the money discussion with significant others. 

  1.  What is my biggest money worry today?
  2. What are we doing well financially?
  3. Is there an issue in our finances that I would like to understand better?
  4. If we need to cut back our spending, what three areas are off-limits and what three could be changed?
  5. What money issues do we avoid and how can we bring them into the open?

Can you think of other questions that would be good to ask when communicating about money?  Comment below and let us know what you think.