Communicating About Money

We all attach emotions to money. Emotions such as freedom, trust, self-esteem, guilt, indifference, envy, security, comfort, power, and control.

When dealing with money, we bring patterns, beliefs, and attitudes that were present and observed from our families.

I do, you do, we all connect strong emotions to money when communicating about money.

We all attach emotions to money.  Emotions such as freedom, trust, self-esteem, guilt, indifference, envy, security, comfort, power, and control

When dealing with money, we bring patterns, beliefs, and attitudes that were present and observed from our families.  I know I did.

Author Judith Viorst suggests that becoming responsible and adept at managing our money represents a true passage into adulthood.  And this would include communicating effectively with significant others about money.  Addressing questions openly and calmly can help keep emotions in check. 

Additionally, try separately writing down the answers to the following questions.  Once completed, schedule a time to meet and discuss.  This could be a very effective way to begin the money discussion with significant others. 

  1.  What is my biggest money worry today?
  2. What are we doing well financially?
  3. Is there an issue in our finances that I would like to understand better?
  4. If we need to cut back our spending, what three areas are off-limits and what three could be changed?
  5. What money issues do we avoid and how can we bring them into the open?

Can you think of other questions that would be good to ask when communicating about money?  Comment below and let us know what you think. 

Need a new job? Manage Your Money Better

Choose a specific time to sit down and work your finances.  Maybe on a Friday evening after you put the kids to bed, or Saturday morning, or a Sunday after church.  It is important to sit down and spend the time to work your finances. 

We go to work every day and work hard.   When we come home the last thing, we want to do is do more work besides the other than the normal, housework.   We may not want to do more work, but if we want to manage our money, we must work at it. 

Managing your money is much like a job, it takes time and consistency, it takes work.       

It Takes Time – Managing money takes time.  It takes time to sit down and prepare your spending plan and determine how you are going to spend your money.  

Choose a specific time to sit down and work your finances.  Maybe on a Friday evening after you put the kids to bed, or Saturday morning, or a Sunday after church.  It is important to sit down and spend the time to work your finances. 

Track and record to determine if you are meeting your spending plan goals and adjust as necessary.  

It Takes Consistency – Just like being consistent at anything you do; you need to be consistent with managing your money. 

Whenever you get paid whether it is weekly or monthly or biweekly, sit down at regular intervals and work your spending plan and finances.  Making sure that we are on track with the budget.  The bills are being paid on time and things are working out as we planned. 

It is a good idea to be consistent with that time.  So, if you are working your finances on Friday evenings, you want to do that every Friday evening, consistently. 

Once you do this for a couple of pay periods, you will create a habit of working your finances and it will become easier.

It Takes Work– Fix up a place at home to work.  A desk and a nice comfortable chair for starters.  All of the equipment that you need to work pencil, paper, spending plan, computer, and financial goals.  Additionally, any paperwork; bills, reports, spreadsheets, or bank statements that may be needed to work your finances. 

Now it is time to work.  Compare your spending plan to your actual spending and then ask yourself the following questions.  Is everything going as planned?  Did something come up that calls for a change in the plan?  What needs to be paid this week or next? 

Once you get into a habit of doing this it will become much easier. 

You will be in control of your finance.  Telling your money what to do and it will be working for you.  You will find money you did not know you had, you know, that money that you did not have a plan for, but you spent anyway. 

You have to take the time, be consistent and work your money before someone else does.   Managing your money is your responsibility, and it is a job.                  

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A Way to a Better Spending Plan or Budget

If you are not maintaining a spending plan or budget to plan your household spending, you are not alone.  Many individuals and families are not, and many who think they are, are not. 

If you are not maintaining a spending plan or budget to plan your household spending, you are not alone.  Many individuals and families are not, and many who think they are, are not.  

According to a 2019 report from the Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards, nearly 60% of people say that they don’t track spending, and another 40% have never had a spending plan or budget.   Among those who reported having a budget, 43% describe their budget as a tracking tool rather than a way to plan, in advance, where their money will go. 

Why We Fail

Creating a spending plan and its process involves more than recording receipts and tracking spending.  In our I want it now culture, we do everything we can to get what we want immediately and sometimes we leave very important steps out. 

We put the cart before the horse and wonder why it’s not working. 

A spending plan or budget is an estimate of how you will spend money during a given period. The more accurate we make this estimate, the better we are: 1. Able to stick to it and 2. The more successful we are at it.

Instead, do this

So instead of continuing to do that and expect a different result, try this.   Begin your spending plan process by tracking your spending for 3 months, 90 days. 

This doesn’t have to be a laborious and complicated task.   Some banks and credit cards will produce expenses and other reports you can use for this process. You can also turn to smartphone apps that will do this.  Once you see your spending history hopefully your spending habits will change also.   

When I am coaching clients through the spending plan process, this is the first step in the process. Every dollar for 90 days is tracked and recorded.

Next, you can take the three months of expenses, average them together, per category i.e., food, gas, and then plan the next month’s spending. It’s not perfect and exact but remember a spending plan is an estimate. How can we make the estimate closer to actual.

You are going to have to plan for those occasional expenses, the sinking funds, like car insurance.

When I am working with clients and they tell me that they do not have any discretionary money to spend, or I am living on a fixed income, my first response do you know where you are spending all your income?   

How can you not know where every dollar of your money is being spent but managing it effectively? 

I am a spending plan and budget coach, and I can help you create and stick to a spending plan that works for you and your family.  Like this post, share it with others, and contact me if I can help you.

Money Mindsets, How’s Yours?

 Do you see light at the end of the tunnel or the further you go; it seems like the longer the tunnel gets?

Do you see money as a tool to help you achieve goals or something that keeps you constantly working Harder for the Money?  

Do you see reflections of money in puddles and wish you hadn’t bought that new car last year?  Do you see light at the end of the tunnel or the further you go; it seems like the longer the tunnel gets?

Consider these mindsets that show a healthy attitude towards money affairs.

  • You are in control of your money instead of it controlling you. 
  • Your money is working for you instead of you working for it.
  • Your money is just not for needs but it also enriches life in constructive ways.
  • Money is not the end goal but a tool to help you achieve your end goals.
  • Sometimes you freely spend money without feeling guilty afterward.
  • You have concluded the money or more money will not solve all your problems.
  • You stick and adhere to your values about money.
  • You know how you utilize to use money and what it represents to you.

Based on the 8 mindsets have you achieved peace with your money?  I am a Financial Coach, and I can help you.  Contact me for assistance.

5 Steps to a Better Spending Plan

Before you receive any money from a paycheck or any other income for the pay period, you want to sit down and “plan to spend” your money.  On purpose, you want to plan out where all your paycheck will be spent.  Often, we do not plan to spend our money and we end up letting others spend our money for us as we buy things that we did not plan to. 

Creating and working your spending plan is the way that you can manage your money better and stop living paycheck to paycheck. 

There are many benefits to creating a spending plan. 

Financial management success is one, however, for all the pitfalls and changes that come when creating and working with a spending plan, here are some steps to make it better.     

Step 1.   Call your budget a spending plan.

Instead of calling it a budget, call it a spending plan.  I do not know what it is but when most of us hear the word budget, we think of bad things, control, things we can’t do. 

So instead, call it a spending plan and think of it as a way to be a better steward of your money.  Just planning to spend your money, a spending plan, sounds like you are doing better.

Before you receive any money from a paycheck or any other income for the pay period, you want to sit down and “plan to spend” your money.  On purpose, you want to plan out where all your paycheck will be spent.  Often, we do not plan to spend our money and we end up letting others spend our money for us as we buy things that we did not plan to. 

Step 2. Track where your money is going.

You cannot effectively manage your money if you do not know where it is going.  Tracking your spending lets you know exactly where every dollar is going.  From the grocery store to the gas pump, tracking your spending will tell you where your money went.  Tracking allows you to have a more accurate spending plan.

 Sit down once a week or so with your receipts and write down where, how much, and what the money was spent for. 

Two things will happen.  First, you will see patterns in your spending that you did not notice before.  Second, you will see patterns in your spending that you will want to change, and that is the key to managing money better, changing behavior.

Step 3. Cut your expenses.

Once you track your expenses for a while, you will have a much better understanding of how, where, and what you are spending your money on.  You are not ready and able to cut unnecessary expenses. 

Go into deal mode and use coupons to save money.  Make a list for all shopping trips and never, never, never go shopping hungry.  Business is very adept at getting you to spend your money, therefore, maybe you stay at home and read a book, exercise, or do some yard works to keep your mind elsewhere.  Even try car polling and taking your lunch to work.   

Take a good hard look at all your spending and see where you can cut.     

Set up some financial goals for yourself like an emergency fund or a Christmas savings account.  Find a way to keep your goals in front of you.  Tape them to your bathroom mirror.  Take them with you when you are out and about.  Refer to them often, they will help you stay on track and prevent impulse buying.      

Step 4. If need be, increase income.

If you have less money coming in than going out, and after cutting expenses, you still have month left after the money is gone, you may want to try and increase your income.  A second job to help pay off debt is not a bad thing in the short term. 

Be sure to have a plan or goal for the money that you make at a second job and stick to the plan. 

Maybe you start a small business doing something that you like to do or do well for extra income.  The possibilities are endless.    

Step 5. Use spending plan tools to help you manage money better.

So, you ask, “What are spending plan tools?”  A spending plan tool is something that helps manage the budget or spending plan. 

Probably one of the oldest and best tools is the envelope system. 

Basically, in the envelope system you develop a spending plan, cash your check and you distribute your paycheck funds into different envelopes with your spending categories labeled on envelopes.  When the envelope is empty – it’s empty and no more spending in that category.  There are other tools such as calendars and some people use spreadsheets to track their different spending categories. 

Whether you use all these steps or none of them, do something different to manage your finances.  Do not keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result.  How do you manage your spending plan or budget?  Comment below and subscribe to my blog to get weekly spending plan and financial management tips.